I would meet the man of my dreams, get married, have children, and then live happily ever after. Three years ago, I was thrown into single motherhood.
All of a sudden I became Mama with a whole lot of drama.
A better way to put this is to understand that we all know that you all come with some form of baggage (just like we do) that we'll eventually have to deal with if we love you enough.
What differentiates men is that we can carry almost any combination of bags and weights as long as we deem your pursuit, love, and affection worth it.
I've walked away from a single mother with one teenage child, and I've dated another mom with three small children (and seriously considered marriage) for over a year!
Bring your A game: While you should always consider bringing your A game when you go out on a date with someone you are interested in, it is especially important when you are dating a single mother. You don’t want her to be thinking, “Damn…I would rather be hanging out with my kid than sitting here across from this guy.” Instead, you want her to be thinking, “Wow, this is so refreshing. It is so nice to be out on a nice thoughtful date with a nice guy.”2.
If you don’t ask her out — no matter how innocuous or considerate the reason — she will assume you don’t want to see her. Leave the ask to the last minute, she has to scramble to find a sitter and that’s really uncool. This shows interest in one of the most important things in her life. Sounds cliche’, but I always appreciate it when a guy goes on about how much he adores his niece, or spends time with a friend’s baby. This isn’t necessary, and especially after you have been involved for a while you will likely sort out the who-pays-when conundrum. Which you may be – but if you ask too fast, she will know.
Plus, it tells her (and any other woman, for that matter) that she was your Plan B for the evening. But if you really want to see her, give her plenty of time to sort out her schedule. In fact, if you DON’T appear interested in her family she’ll think that you’re not into kids. When a guy laughs at my funny-kid story, or is sympathetic about my mom worries, I’m in. But if you tend to take turns picking up the bill, but she sometimes rearranges her life to get out of the house and pays for a babysitter so she can spend time with you, acknowledge that.“You look great for a mom.” That. But she wants to feel like you’re interested in her in every part of her womanhood — including motherhood. If it has been more than a few months, or things get very serious very quickly, and she hasn’t brought up introducing the kids, bring it up.
Respect that it’s a big deal when she introduces you to her kids.
When you look as though you're about to pop, it can sometimes feel like there's a big sign pointing to you, saying "Ask me about my belly!