Among heterosexual Ok Cupid users, men are 3.5 times as likely as women to send the first message.

Does a woman starting contact take the “thrill of the chase” away from a guy?

Another theory could be that because we have time to respond to communication with thoughtful messages, the standards are now much higher, causing anxiety for the initiator.

One study illustrated how the first communication can impact the way a person perceives your character (Rosen et al. It was found that the amount of emotionality and self-disclosure in an email affected a person’s perception of a potential partner. wonderful, excited) led to more positive impressions than an email with fewer strong emotional words (i.e. So in these situations, is it gender role beliefs (or the lack of them) that inhibit people from initiating contact, or could it be the pressure of sending a good message, or is it something else?

Chances are, guys will be grateful for the attention.

That’s the promise from Bumble, an 8-month-old app that’s adding a new algorithm to grade users on metrics like engagement and, well, whether they’re demanding to see you naked.