Carver begins by defining “the Loser”: “‘The Loser’ is a type of partner that creates much social, emotional and psychological damage in a relationship…
The following list is an attempt to outline the characteristics of ‘The Loser’ and provide a manner in which women and men can identify potentially damaging relationships before they are themselves severely damaged emotionally or even physically.” () 1. “If he or she hits you, twists your arm, pulls your hair, kicks you, shoves you, or breaks your personal property even once, drop them,” Carver advises.
But, as we’ll see, even the symptoms that seem positive (such as the instant attachment and over-the-top attention, flattery and gifts) are in fact negative.
Similarly, Carver notes that the Loser doesn’t have to exhibit all of the symptoms listed below to be dangerous.
A female possessing the triad of 1) no real female friends, 2) excessive flirtiness and/or slutiness and 3) emotional instability in romantic realtionships.
But now you gradually realize that your relationship is not going places after all.
She is unable to maintain female friendships because she flirts with and or sleeps with their significant others whenever possible.
Alternatively she stabs them in the back in order to gain/maintain the affections of men, for which she sees other women as rivals to be defeated at any cost.
Desiring male sexual attention above all else she will flirt with and lead on all men, even those she is absolutely not attracted to.
As a result, she may sleep wit many men she does not like in order to maintain their attention.